Separation and Loss

The painful Phoenix of life;
using Process work to understand relationship disturbance

“Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” ~ Alfred Lord Tennyson

Separation can be such a horror, bringing up not just the pain of losing your partner, but also plenty of other unresolved issues in the background like loneliness and regret. By its nature loss can be raw and grief has its own schedule beyond our own wishes. Even if it’s a happy and mutually appreciative ending, there are sometimes unspoken back-currents which take years to emerge. If a partner has passed away then the vacuum of their presence can linger in a very vital and real way. Not only not ‘happy forever after’, but publicly too after being together all the hopes, ideals and wishes are put on the compost pile of life, ready to be recycled into new relationships, bitternesses, fears or ‘never again’.
So is it possible that divorce, separation or loss could be a new beginning and what could be some of the ground rules for that. Could there just, oh so possibly, be some learning for us in what our ex partner accused us of? Is it possible that we can differentiate between things we could improve on, parts where we did our best and then that sense of simply drifting apart despite our best intents.
This will be an evening with no set answers, just a willingness to explore what’s usually a taboo subject. It will also introduce core philosophies of Process Work on Relationship, including working with disturbance, relationship myths and how they affect us, marginalised parts of ourselves and how they wish to be included in our awareness.
This will be an evening with no set answers, just a willingness to explore what’s usually a taboo subject.


Peter Lloyd is a divorced therapist in a relationship hoping to not repeat some of his past mistakes. He’s also an interfaith minister who has celebrated over 30 weddings. He is in his 6th year of studying Process Oriented Psychology in the UK and has a private practice in Hong Kong. He is also an interfaith minister, Findhorn Fellow and former editor of Positive News Hong Kong and Holistic Hong Kong.

Process Work takes the basic premise that all disturbances have meaning, and is founded on principles from Jung, Taoism, Shamanism and Quantum Physics. It’s especially well known for its work on conflict resolution, deep democracy, myths and dreams, rank and its effect on others amongst many other aspects.

For more info:

Tel: 07516116443

Date: 25 September, 2015, 7 – 9pm

Venue: Gold Room, Centre of Science and Art, Landsdown, Stroud. GL5 1BB.

By donation to cover rental costs.

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