Separation and Loss

The painful Phoenix of life;

using Process work to understand relationship disturbance

“Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” ~ Alfred Lord TennysonIMG_0161 copy

Separation can be such a horror, bringing up not just the pain of losing your partner, but also plenty of other unresolved issues in the background like loneliness and regret. By its nature loss can be raw and grief has its own schedule beyond our own wishes. Even if it’s a happy and mutually appreciative ending, there are sometimes unspoken back-currents which take years to emerge. If a partner has passed away then the vacuum of their presence can linger in a very vital and real way. Not only not ‘happy forever after’, but publicly too after being together all the hopes, ideals and wishes are put on the compost pile of life, ready to be recycled into new relationships, bitternesses, fears or ‘never again’.
So is it possible that divorce, separation or loss could be a new beginning and what could be some of the ground rules for that. Could there just, oh so possibly, be some learning for us in what our ex partner accused us of? Is it possible that we can differentiate between things we could improve on, parts where we did our best and then that sense of simply drifting apart despite our best intents.
This will be an evening with no set answers, just a willingness to explore what’s usually a taboo subject. It will also introduce core philosophies of Process Work on Relationship, including working with disturbance, relationship myths and how they affect us, marginalised parts of ourselves and how they wish to be included in our awareness.
This will be an evening with no set answers, just a willingness to explore what’s usually a taboo subject.

 

Peter Lloyd is a divorced therapist in a relationship hoping to not repeat some of his past mistakes. He’s also an interfaith minister who has celebrated over 30 weddings. He is in his 6th year of studying Process Oriented Psychology in the UK and has a private practice in Hong Kong. He is also an interfaith minister, Findhorn Fellow and former editor of Positive News Hong Kong and Holistic Hong Kong.

Process Work takes the basic premise that all disturbances have meaning, and is founded on principles from Jung, Taoism, Shamanism and Quantum Physics. It’s especially well known for its work on conflict resolution, deep democracy, myths and dreams, rank and its effect on others amongst many other aspects.

For more info: www.peterlloydpsychotherapy.com

Email: ptlloyd65@gmail.com
Tel: 29822807

Date: , 21 January 2016, 7.30 – 9pm

Venue: Room 201, 2/F, Ivy House, 18-20 Wyndham Street, Central.

$100 donation to cover rental costs.

Dreams and the Dreaming Process

‘A dream which is not interpreted is like a letter which is not read’ TalmudDreams

We all dream every night and have dreams of varying intensity and meaning. In this collaborative evening we will share our dreams, explore different approaches to understanding them. Jung and Freud called dreams ‘the royal road to the unconscious’, the Greeks turned to dreams for divination, and Mindell, the founder of Process Oriented Psychology, found that there is always what he called a ‘dreaming process’ wishing to unfold in our lives and that it expresses itself through our dreams and other ways in our life.

In addition to night dreams, space will be made if wanted for other aspects of our dreaming – day dreams, synchronicities and other ways the dreaming world can call upon us.

The dream shows the inner truth and reality of the patient as it really is: not as I conjecture it to be, and not as he would like it to be, but as it is.” CG Jung, Memories, Dreams, Reflections.

Peter Lloyd is in his 6th year of studying Process Oriented Psychology in the UK and has had a private practice in Hong Kong. He is also an interfaith minister, Findhorn Fellow and former editor of Positive News Hong Kong.

Process Work takes the basic premise that all disturbances have meaning, and is founded on principles from Jung, Taoism, Shamanism and Quantum Physics. It’s especially well known for its work on conflict resolution, deep democracy, myths and dreams, rank and its effect on others amongst many other aspects.

For more info: www.peterlloydpsychotherapy.com

Email: peterlloyd@netvigator.com

January 9, 2016,  7-8.30pm.

Club O, 7/F, Cheong Ming Building, 86-88 Argyle St. Mongkok, Kowloon.
Translation from English to Cantonese will be provided.

 

Boarding Schools – not quite Hogwarts

The social privilege of boarding is psychologically double-edged: it both creates shame that prevents sufferers from acknowledging their problems, as well as unconscious entitlement that explains why ex-boarder leaders are brittle and defensive while still projecting confidence. Nick Duffell

Set up to run an empire, boarding schools are still here in 2015, still affecting thousands of children. With the promise of an elite upbringing, intellectual rigour and sporting prowess, boarding schools have remained popular and coveted for children. Some children thrive in this competitive environment. For others they suffer deep wounds that effect them for the rest of their lives. Abandonment, neglect, bullying and sexual abuse can occur with serious implications for adult lives. There is now a psychological term ‘boarding school school syndrome’. Survival strategies that got you through boarding school often stop being effective in adult life, and then understanding the deeper effects of being sent away help.
This is an evening to explore the varied experiences of boarding school and is for those who want to explore their school pasts or just listen to others. It’s also for parents who wish to find out more about boarding schools. To shine a bit of light on something thats not usually talked about.

Tel: 2982 2807

Date: 23 November, 2015, 7 – 9pm

Venue: Shakti Healing Circle: 701 Glenealy Tower, 1 Glenealy, Central. Tel: 2521 5099.

$100 to cover rental costs.

Separation and Loss

The painful Phoenix of life;
using Process work to understand relationship disturbance

“Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” ~ Alfred Lord Tennyson

Separation can be such a horror, bringing up not just the pain of losing your partner, but also plenty of other unresolved issues in the background like loneliness and regret. By its nature loss can be raw and grief has its own schedule beyond our own wishes. Even if it’s a happy and mutually appreciative ending, there are sometimes unspoken back-currents which take years to emerge. If a partner has passed away then the vacuum of their presence can linger in a very vital and real way. Not only not ‘happy forever after’, but publicly too after being together all the hopes, ideals and wishes are put on the compost pile of life, ready to be recycled into new relationships, bitternesses, fears or ‘never again’.
So is it possible that divorce, separation or loss could be a new beginning and what could be some of the ground rules for that. Could there just, oh so possibly, be some learning for us in what our ex partner accused us of? Is it possible that we can differentiate between things we could improve on, parts where we did our best and then that sense of simply drifting apart despite our best intents.
This will be an evening with no set answers, just a willingness to explore what’s usually a taboo subject. It will also introduce core philosophies of Process Work on Relationship, including working with disturbance, relationship myths and how they affect us, marginalised parts of ourselves and how they wish to be included in our awareness.
This will be an evening with no set answers, just a willingness to explore what’s usually a taboo subject.

 

Peter Lloyd is a divorced therapist in a relationship hoping to not repeat some of his past mistakes. He’s also an interfaith minister who has celebrated over 30 weddings. He is in his 6th year of studying Process Oriented Psychology in the UK and has a private practice in Hong Kong. He is also an interfaith minister, Findhorn Fellow and former editor of Positive News Hong Kong and Holistic Hong Kong.

Process Work takes the basic premise that all disturbances have meaning, and is founded on principles from Jung, Taoism, Shamanism and Quantum Physics. It’s especially well known for its work on conflict resolution, deep democracy, myths and dreams, rank and its effect on others amongst many other aspects.

For more info: www.peterlloydpsychotherapy.com

Email: peterlloyd@netvigator.com
Tel: 07516116443

Date: 25 September, 2015, 7 – 9pm

Venue: Gold Room, Centre of Science and Art, Landsdown, Stroud. GL5 1BB.

By donation to cover rental costs.

Dreams and the dreaming process

‘A dream which is not interpreted is like a letter which is not read’ TalmudDreams

We all dream every night and have dreams of varying intensity and meaning. In this collaborative evening we will share our dreams, explore different approaches to understanding them. Jung and Freud called dreams ‘the royal road to the unconscious’, the Greeks turned to dreams for divination, and Mindell, the founder of Process Oriented Psychology, found that there is always what he called a ‘dreaming process’ wishing to unfold in our lives and that it expresses itself through our dreams and other ways in our life.

In addition to night dreams, space will be made if wanted for other aspects of our dreaming – day dreams, synchronicities and other ways the dreaming world can call upon us.

The dream shows the inner truth and reality of the patient as it really is: not as I conjecture it to be, and not as he would like it to be, but as it is.” CG Jung, Memories, Dreams, Reflections.

Peter Lloyd is in his 6th year of studying Process Oriented Psychology in the UK and has had a private practice in Hong Kong. He is also an interfaith minister, Findhorn Fellow and former editor of Positive News Hong Kong.

Process Work takes the basic premise that all disturbances have meaning, and is founded on principles from Jung, Taoism, Shamanism and Quantum Physics. It’s especially well known for its work on conflict resolution, deep democracy, myths and dreams, rank and its effect on others amongst many other aspects.

For more info: www.peterlloydpsychotherapy.com

Email: peterlloyd@netvigator.com

September 5, 7-8pm.

Club O, 7/F, Cheong Ming Building, 86-88 Argyle St. Mongkok, Kowloon.
Translation from English to Cantonese will be provided.

Divorce and Separation

The unspeakable final frontier

“Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” ~ Alfred Lord Tennyson

Divorce is such a difficult subject that I have known people who simply refer to the ‘D’ word, even as they go through a divorce. The separation, the smashed dreams, the public failure, and worst of all for those with children, the children. Not only not ‘happy forever after’, but publicly too after your wedding or being together all the hopes, ideals and wishes are put on the compost pile of life, ready to be recycled into new relationships, bitternesses, fears or ‘never again’.

So is it possible that divorce or separation could be a new beginning and what could be some of the ground rules for that. Could there just, oh so possibly, be some learning for us in what our ex partner accused us of? Is it possible that we can differentiate between things we could improve on, parts where we did our best and then that sense of simply drifting apart despite our best intents.

This will be an evening with no set answers, just a willingness to explore what’s usually a taboo subject.

 

Peter Lloyd is a divorced therapist in a relationship hoping to not repeat some of his past mistakes. He’s also an interfaith minister who has celebrated over 30 weddings. He is in his 6th year of studying Process Oriented Psychology in the UK and has a private practice in Hong Kong. He is also an interfaith minister, Findhorn Fellow and former editor of Positive News Hong Kong and Holistic Hong Kong.

Process Work takes the basic premise that all disturbances have meaning, and is founded on principles from Jung, Taoism, Shamanism and Quantum Physics. It’s especially well known for its work on conflict resolution, deep democracy, myths and dreams, rank and its effect on others amongst many other aspects.

For more info: www.peterlloydpsychotherapy.com

Peter
Tel: 2982 2807

Date: 29 July, 2015, 7 – 9pm

Venue: Shakti Healing Circle: 701 Glenealy Tower, 1 Glenealy, Central. Tel: 2521 5099.

$100 to cover rental costs.

 

 

Dreams and the dreaming process.

‘A dream which is not interpreted is like a letter which is not read’ TalmudDreams

We all dream every night and have dreams of varying intensity and meaning. In this collaborative evening we will share our dreams, explore different approaches to understanding them. Jung and Freud called dreams ‘the royal road to the unconscious’, the Greeks turned to dreams for divination, and Mindell, the founder of Process Oriented Psychology, found that there is always what he called a ‘dreaming process’ wishing to unfold in our lives and that it expresses itself through our dreams and other ways in our life.

In addition to night dreams, space will be made if wanted for other aspects of our dreaming – day dreams, synchronicities and other ways the dreaming world can call upon us.

The dream shows the inner truth and reality of the patient as it really is: not as I conjecture it to be, and not as he would like it to be, but as it is.” CG Jung, Memories, Dreams, Reflections.

Peter Lloyd is in his 6th year of studying Process Oriented Psychology in the UK and has had a private practice in Hong Kong. He is also an interfaith minister, Findhorn Fellow and former editor of Positive News Hong Kong.

Process Work takes the basic premise that all disturbances have meaning, and is founded on principles from Jung, Taoism, Shamanism and Quantum Physics. It’s especially well known for its work on conflict resolution, deep democracy, myths and dreams, rank and its effect on others amongst many other aspects.

For more info: www.peterlloydpsychotherapy.com

Email: peterlloyd@netvigator.com
Tel: 07516116443

Date: Friday 3 July 2015, 7 – 9pm

Venue: Gold Room, Centre of Science and Art, Landsdown, Stroud. GL5 1BB.

By donation to cover rental costs.

Finding yourself in Hong Kong

It only takes a visit away to remember just how unique Hong Kong is, and what a vibrant energy it has. Underneath the successful ‘work hard, play hard’ bustle and bubble of Hong Kong lies another world of struggle known and unknown to each of us in differing degrees. The recent occupy movement has shown a new HK emerging with greater diversity. What are the flip sides of our ease, freedom and opportunity that we have in our city? What are the pressures of life here which filter through to affect our emotional and spiritual lives as well at times as our health. This will be an evening to explore all sides of living in our city, including the dreamscape of Hong Kong.

 

Peter Lloyd is in his 6th year of studying Process Oriented Psychology in the UK and has a private practice in Hong Kong. He is also an interfaith minister, Findhorn Fellow and former editor of Positive News Hong Kong and Holistic Hong Kong and author of ‘Spiritual and Alternative Hong Kong’. He was born and brought up in HK.

Process Work takes the basic premise that all disturbances have meaning, and is founded on principles from Jung, Taoism, Shamanism and Quantum Physics. It’s especially well known for its work on conflict resolution, deep democracy, myths and dreams, rank and its effect on others amongst many other aspects.

For more info: www.peterlloydpsychotherapy.com

Peter
Tel: 2982 2807

 

Date: 23 May 7 – 9pm

Venue: Club O, Mongkok, Kowloon. Translation into Cantonese will be provided.

 

Finding yourself in Hong Kong

It only takes a visit away to remember just how unique Hong Kong is, and what a vibrant energy it has. Underneath the successful ‘work hard, play hard’ bustle and bubble of Hong Kong lies another world of struggle known and unknown to each of us in differing degrees. The recent occupy movement has shown a new HK emerging with greater diversity. What are the flip sides of our ease, freedom and opportunity that we have in our city? What are the pressures of life here which filter through to affect our emotional and spiritual lives as well at times as our health. This will be an evening to explore all sides of living in our city, including the dreamscape of Hong Kong.

 

Peter Lloyd is in his 6th year of studying Process Oriented Psychology in the UK and has a private practice in Hong Kong. He is also an interfaith minister, Findhorn Fellow and former editor of Positive News Hong Kong and Holistic Hong Kong and author of ‘Spiritual and Alternative Hong Kong’. He was born and brought up in HK.

Process Work takes the basic premise that all disturbances have meaning, and is founded on principles from Jung, Taoism, Shamanism and Quantum Physics. It’s especially well known for its work on conflict resolution, deep democracy, myths and dreams, rank and its effect on others amongst many other aspects.

For more info: www.peterlloydpsychotherapy.com

Peter
Tel: 2982 2807

 

Date: 11 March 7 – 9pm

Venue: Shakti Healing Circle: 701 Glenealy Tower, 1 Glenealy, Central. Tel: 2521 5099.

Donation to cover rental costs.

 

 

Dreams and the Dreaming Process

“A dream which is not interpreted is like a letter which is not read.”Dreams
Talmud

Welcome to an evening to explore and share dreams. We all dream every night and have dreams of varying intensity and meaning. In this collaborative evening we will share our dreams, explore different approaches to understanding and why Jung and Freud called dreams the royal road to the unconscious. The Greeks turned to dreams for divination, and Mindell the founder of Process Work found that dreams reflect our body symptoms and dreaming process wishing to unfold.

In addition to night dreams, space will be made if wanted for other aspects of our dreaming – day dreams, sychronicities and other ways the dreaming world can call upon us.

“The dream shows the inner truth and reality of the patient as it really is: not as I conjecture it to be, and not as he would like it to be, but as it is.”
CG Jung, Memories, Dreams, Reflections

When

10 December 2014, 7 – 9pm

Where

Shakti Healing Circle
701 Glenealy Tower, 1 Glenealy,
Central, Hong Kong

Tel: 2521 5099